by Oscar Collins April 27, 2021 2 min read

If you’re planning to walk down the aisle soon, you and your partner might have pre-wedding jitters. Whether you’re both nervous or just one of you is feeling off, it’s completely normal.

While there are plenty of methods people often turn to in hopes of getting rid of nerves — from drinking to detachment — those only cover up what you’re actually feeling rather than allowing you to work through it together.

Here’s how you can get through the nerves in a productive way in time for your big day, and maybe even grow closer in the process!

Communicate

Since you’re about to get married, one might assume you have your communication skills down pat already. While you might get swept up in all the madness, there’s nothing wrong with going back to the basics.

Sit down and talk to each other about how you’re feeling. Get it all out and really communicate with one another.

Go With the Flow

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While they might not be the main culprit, little details can sometimes send people over the edge. It can be hard not to sweat the small stuff on your wedding day when it feels like every detail matters.

But letting go and finding a sense of momentum to see the bigger picture can truly put you both back on track to your happily ever after.

Practice — But Not Too Much

Sometimes, the anxiety can be purely social. Especially if you’re both introverts, getting up in front of all your friends and family to say your vows is enough to make anyone a little queasy. That discomfort can sometimes lead to drinking, creating new obstacles.

Even if you save your real vows for the big day, practicing with positive affirmations and personalized vows can help you get in the right mindset for when the real wedding is here.

Calming Your Partner’s Nerves

Everyone gets nervous, and weddings can put that on an all-time high. Just remember that you’re here because you love each other. Even if you’re nervous or your partner is nervous, you can get through it together.